Once trust is broken, can it be healed?
Here is how couples can heal after an affair
Hi. My name is Parcsen and I am a Relationship Coach. Over the years I have managed to help a number of couples heal after an affair. It is not an easy process but I am convinced it is possible. Divorce may seem to be the easier option, but it isn’t, especially when children are involved. I hope that you will reach out for help if an affair has happened in your marriage.
Summary
Restoring trust after infidelity is possible through specific actions
- Acknowledging the wrongdoing is crucial for healing the trauma
- Expressing remorse and guilt to show care and value for the partner
Taking responsibility in rebuilding trust after infidelity
- Being proactive in protecting boundaries and addressing the affair to alleviate the deceived partner's burden.
- Reassuring the deceived partner and actively working to build trust through actions.
Rebuilding trust after infidelity
- Gradually creating new memories to overwrite painful ones
- Partner taking on the role of protector and working towards a new secure connection
Importance of acknowledging guilt and pain in restoring trust
- Affair partners may struggle to accept their role in causing pain and guilt
- It's important to create space for partner to express pain without feeling silenced or dismissed
Rebuilding trust after infidelity requires reweaving the shattered narrative of one's life.
- Repeatedly asking questions and getting new information can help in rebuilding trust.
- Curiosity and examining sorted details can aid in restoring trust, but dwelling on painful questions and answers can cause more pain.
Investigative questions help understand the meaning and motive of the affair.
- The questions provide insight into the affair's significance for the individual.
- They also explore the impact on the relationship and potential for growth.
Curiosity about partner's infidelity can be destructive.
- Partner's infidelity can lead to destructive curiosity, causing harmful fantasies.
- It is natural to want to know about the partner's infidelity, but it's crucial to learn to manage that curiosity.
Importance of knowing vs. consequences of knowing
- Consider implications before seeking answers from partner
- Both partners play a role in maintaining relationship post-infidelity